Networking skills · Nov 11, 2026
How to Ask for an Introduction Respectfully
An introduction spends some of another person's trust. Make it easy to say no, and explain clearly why the proposed connection could benefit both sides.
Why it matters
When you ask someone to introduce you, you are asking them to put their reputation behind you. That is a real favour, and the way you ask shows how you would treat the person you are introduced to.
A good request is easy to grant and easy to decline. It saves the connector time, explains the benefit for both sides, and leaves them in control.
Put it into practice
Describe whom you hope to meet, why, and a two-sentence message the connector may forward. Do not request private contact details without permission.
- Be clear about who you want to meet and why this person in particular.
- Explain what is in it for them. A connection should be useful in both directions.
- Write a short message the connector can forward without editing: who you are, why you are reaching out, one specific ask.
- Say plainly that it is fine to decline. Do not apply pressure or ask for private contact details.
- After the introduction, move the conversation to your own channel quickly so the connector is not stuck in the middle.
- Thank the connector and tell them what happened. People enjoy hearing that their introduction mattered.
What to say
If it feels appropriate, would you be comfortable forwarding this note?
- “Would you be comfortable introducing me to Dana? I'm working on a project in her area, and I think we could learn from each other. If it's not a good time, no problem at all.”
- “I've written a short note you could forward. If it feels appropriate, would you be comfortable sending it?”
Common mistakes to avoid
- Asking a near-stranger for a high-stakes introduction. Build some context first.
- Sending a long message that the connector would have to rewrite. Make forwarding effortless.
- Disappearing after the introduction. Report back and keep the connector informed.
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Quick answers
The short version
Ask each person for permission first, then write a short message explaining why you think they should meet, and step back so they can continue directly.
Thank them for considering it and keep the relationship warm. A clear, respectful no helps both of you avoid a poor connection.